[JustAskJulie]

I think when it comes down to it, it is FAR more important that you can talk about your desires seriously while sitting on the couch next to each other than to be able to talk about them in bed. Too often, couples (or more often half a couple) makes the mistake of only talking about things IN bed and assuming that if they are talking about it at all that the other partner wants it to be a reality. You guys are in the opposite position.

The fact that the MRS is talking openly about what she wants and doesn't OUTSIDE of the bedroom is a key that she does want this to happen and it is not just some fantasy to discuss while getting hot and bothered.

Honestly, the fact that the MR only seems to want to discuss it in bed and is now worried that the MRS doesn't want to go through with it because she won't talk about it in bed... makes me wonder if he is really ready to make this fantasy a reality or if he just wants to keep it in the bedroom to spice up their one on one time.