In many years of being with Laura and also in the lifestyle I have found out two things.
Laura does not like to talk during sex and really does not like to talk about sex any other time. She prefers doing it then talking about it.
Also it is not good to set in your mind or verbally what you think you want to happen or what is going to happen outside of setting up your "rules" of what you will not do.
I promise you the experience will NEVER be as big or as great as you will set yourself up for in your mind. Do NOT over think this. Let is flow with what you are comfortable with at the time.
If you try to get it all staged you are going to be very tense and let down with the experience over all.
Do not make this harder then it really is. It is sex, you both know how to do that I am sure. Get naked, play and have fun.
Good luck to you both.