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Good morning Chloe,

I have a very good idea where you are coming from. My first wife was and my second wife is very religious.

My first wife and I got into swinging without enough talking about it and that did cause issues. Long story short, after her first try, the Bible hit the floor and she was off to the races with swinging and left me in the dust. Up to that point, I was the only one she had sex with and now was playing to find out what she had missed. She forgot to bring me along on some of the adventures (this was the issue) and I felt left out, I wanted to participate. So like everyone here said, talk it out and DO NOT get into something you are not comfortable with.

My second wife is like you in that she has said she wants nothing to do with it and I do not push the issue but I have found some things she does like in the lifestyle without her even knowing it. We travel to Hedonism II where we only play with each other and do not swing with other couples. We have played around in public there as well as in our hot tub when swinger friends come over and everyone respects the others limits! This is referred to as soft swinging by most and she does not even realize she is doing it. We also only camp now at nude campgrounds and do nude beaches as we have found the folks there to be the best folks we meet anywhere. They are friendly, helpful, and social. Ever go to a public beach and sit there among thousands and never talk to anyone? That does not happen at nude beaches as people are open to talk and socialize. We found our first nude beach at Tahoe on our honeymoon and have only been back to one regular beach in 10 years, which was due to a family reunion. You may find that you have some common areas but you are going to have to look hard to find it and define just what you are willing to do.

Now to answer what I seen in the post as an implied question: “Why does he want me to do this, am I not enough?” The answer is yes you probably are. I can not answer for him why he may want to swing but I can answer why, even with the first disaster, that I want my wife to do anything she will. Look at yourself as the most precious thing you have as a possession, lets say for instance, a million dollar diamond necklace. Now you wear it to work one day and not a single person notices. How do you feel the necklace? Now a group of woman come up and ooh and ah around you and wants to try it on. They give it back and tell you how wonderful it is. How do you feel about it now? I like to do things with my wife anyway I can so that I can show the world how great she is and that she has chosen me of all people to be with.

Just my thoughts, I hope it gives you some food for thought. Poke around the board and ask any questions you want. The people her will not “flame” or degrade you for asking. Like the beaches, campgrounds, and Hedo, they will help you anyway they can and do not even know you. How many other people can you count in your life that will without judging you?

Good luck