I think it's important that the guys let the women know that it's OK if they don't cum. As a woman, without the guy cumming we have no way to gauge whether or not he enjoyed what was going on, or if he is disapointed in not cumming. If we don't know ahead of time that it is something he saves for later or whatever his reason is.. then we are left with the thoughts ... that we didn't finish him and that he didn't "enjoy" himself.. that we weren't good enough.
So for you guys reading this who find it hard to come in swinging situations or who choose not to, be sure to let the women know what is going on. It will make for a much better experience all the way around.
Julie
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