The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Missed Wife's Signal and now she feels I broke a rule

Vespertine · 02-10-2005, 09:26 AM

Welcome to the board!

Looks like you and your wife need to clearly re-define your rules with each other.

Doing things like blinking, in theory, seems like it would work, but when you try to apply that in a real life situation, things can go awry (as you already know). It's too subtle to be an accurate signal, one easily missed.

I'd suggest you and your wife find a way to verbally communicate and define your boundaries prior to any physical activity taking place with any other partners.

More importantly, you both need to try not to hold a grudge if one of you is unhappy with an event that occurred while swinging. In all honestly, if you two are that easily angered... swinging may not be for you.

People make mistakes, especially when we dive into new territory and are still learning what works and what doesn't work for us.

You need to remember you're on the same team.

02-10-2005, 09:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Rules Welcome to the board! Looks like you and your wife need to clearly re-define your rules with each other. Doing things like blinking, in theory, seems like it would work, but when you try to apply that in a real life situation, things can go awry (as you already know). It's too subtle to be an accurate signal, one easily missed. I'd suggest you and your wife find a way to verbally communicate and define your boundaries prior to any physical activity taking place with any other partners. More importantly, you both need to try not to hold a grudge if one of you is unhappy with an event that occurred while swinging. In all honestly, if you two are that easily angered... swinging may not be for you. People make mistakes, especially when we dive into new territory and are still learning what works and what doesn't work for us. You need to remember you're on the same team. __________________ Ves The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral.