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Hello to all,

We are new here and would like to say hello to everyone and thank everyone for their contributions which can be of great help.

A little about ourselves. We are from Canada (immigrants) and have been in the lifestyle for a little bit less than two years with some experience so not completely newbies even though me, the hubby, sometimes get performance anxiety but I have read that this happens to a lot of people. Thanks for these postings very comforting to me. We are 28/25 but together for 8 yrs.

We have always had rules and we have respected them. For example, she is the one who decides if we are going to play with a particular couple or not. On one time, we were playing at our place. The other women and I were on one couch and the other guy and wife were on the other seat. At some point I said lets go to the room and I went there with the lady and were doing a 69, when wife and the other guy joined it. Later when they left she was mad at me saying we were never supposed to do separate room. I apologized but she was mad for the rest of the night and the next day.

This Saturday we went to a small party for the first time in our lives. There were 3 couples in all. We had some rules defined where she would blink her eyes twice and I should do the same for approval. She said she did that but I did not see it. The next thing I know is she was doing the whole thing. I was so pissed. I told her that and she realised that she did something wrong. We did not make a mess as we did not want to be rude. But at home I was very very angry. I cannot explain why. I did break rule once but it was not full but soft. For her it was full. For the next few days I was really angry with her. But yesterday I did talk to her as I do love her dont get me wrong. Now we are not into the "fighting" period anymore. If someone has lived something like that I would greatly appreciate their input as well as input from others please.

Thanks.

Patrick