The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Why the hatred of bi-males?

lovefest04 · 02-06-2005, 06:44 PM

bloom,

I think the sort of issues you are speaking of are prevalent in a lot of racial issues. I'm truly sorry you're feeling this type of discrimination. You shouldn't.

I have also heard the "faggot" expression used when talking about bi-males. I think that men are scared of being approached or "hit-on" by a bi-male. I have read articles and opinions regarding gays in..., you fill in the blank, locker rooms, military, fox holes, etc. I think the feeling is that if your gay or bi you're going to be actively approaching and hitting on other men, regardless of whether or not those you're hitting on are gay or bi. Some really big insecurities here.

Forget that I haven't met many men I think take good enough care of themselves for me to even be attracted to them, bless the SO's who do.

In the swinging realm I'm really open to everyone enjoying themselves.

Yes, I think there is a lot of homophobia in our society. Mostly against men. I think this stems from a lot of male insecurity, but that's just my opinion. Why not against women? Women are as a group more accepting and probably less insecure about that issue. Again, just my opinion. And men, in my opoinion, are all for multiple women forget whether they are lesbians or whatever. In fact, I think men are more supportive of bi-females than lesbians, why, because we men think that if they are bi- then we have a shot at them and their female playmate.

For the record, I no longer promote myself as bi, because I have found it makes the first meetings more difficult. Let's be clear, I am also not actively looking to have sex with men. However, my wife digs MM play and I'm happy to oblige. So, I guess I am more situationally bi. If the other couple is in to it and a request is made, then let me at him.

We have also found that many men who would never describe themselves as bi, are very ok with MM activity in the heat of the moment. Just don't discuss it over a beer at their local bar.

Let's all get over ourselves, be respectful, feel free to set limits and to make those limits clear, but for gods sake, don't judge others for making different decisions. Frankly, it has nothing to do with you and will not effect your life.

I better stop, before I start on the Gay Marriage issue.

Love and PEACE to all.

02-06-2005, 06:44 PM	#15 (permalink)
lovefest04 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 183 Location: Northern California	Re: Why the hatred of bi-males? bloom, I think the sort of issues you are speaking of are prevalent in a lot of racial issues. I'm truly sorry you're feeling this type of discrimination. You shouldn't. I have also heard the "faggot" expression used when talking about bi-males. I think that men are scared of being approached or "hit-on" by a bi-male. I have read articles and opinions regarding gays in..., you fill in the blank, locker rooms, military, fox holes, etc. I think the feeling is that if your gay or bi you're going to be actively approaching and hitting on other men, regardless of whether or not those you're hitting on are gay or bi. Some really big insecurities here. Forget that I haven't met many men I think take good enough care of themselves for me to even be attracted to them, bless the SO's who do. In the swinging realm I'm really open to everyone enjoying themselves. Yes, I think there is a lot of homophobia in our society. Mostly against men. I think this stems from a lot of male insecurity, but that's just my opinion. Why not against women? Women are as a group more accepting and probably less insecure about that issue. Again, just my opinion. And men, in my opoinion, are all for multiple women forget whether they are lesbians or whatever. In fact, I think men are more supportive of bi-females than lesbians, why, because we men think that if they are bi- then we have a shot at them and their female playmate. For the record, I no longer promote myself as bi, because I have found it makes the first meetings more difficult. Let's be clear, I am also not actively looking to have sex with men. However, my wife digs MM play and I'm happy to oblige. So, I guess I am more situationally bi. If the other couple is in to it and a request is made, then let me at him. We have also found that many men who would never describe themselves as bi, are very ok with MM activity in the heat of the moment. Just don't discuss it over a beer at their local bar. Let's all get over ourselves, be respectful, feel free to set limits and to make those limits clear, but for gods sake, don't judge others for making different decisions. Frankly, it has nothing to do with you and will not effect your life. I better stop, before I start on the Gay Marriage issue. Love and PEACE to all.