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Originally Posted by northindycpl As far as being blacklisted from a club? Indiana is the biggest small town around. I have found that clubs here, develop regulars and those regulars do keep tabs. But, I have yet to be in a club where they have asked for a website username? How do people know your a bi-male, and its actually you? I am very confused by your statement, can you elaborate?  |
My guess -- and it is only a guess -- that the people who contacted us felt they were being 'tracked' simply via name and pic. As you say, Indiana is a big small town so methinks they are simply concerned over their names and pics. I mean something like 'Sally and Craig from Gas City" makes it kinda easy to know who they are if met in a club, you know? But that's only a wild guess. We haven't been to any clubs here yet so its not a big deal for us. But for some reason it seemed a big concern to the 2 couples that contacted us. Maybe they each have a concern over confidentiality greater than our own? I dunno.
But I guess I have to repeat back to you my own confusion over your mention of "... and those regulars do keep tabs". One the one hand it seems you're kinda agreeing/acknowledgeing the "tracking" of couples that way, but methinks maybe you just meant that any regular will track other participants. Just like being in a favorite bar or hangout, the regular folks are familiar and new one's get a curious eye, you know?
Really not trying to sound paranoic or fearsome. We don't care if some folks don't like us, that's life. Just cannot grok what the bi-male fuss is about, that's all.
And it is not that I am saying we think there -is- some sort of "blacklist", nor care a whole kaboodle if there is. Just still shaking my head not understanding the agression that even asking about the issue seems to generate sometimes.
Hope that makes sense... Not offering a challenge -- just making conversation with folks who's advice we honestly and sincerely respect; like you. The number of rational and terribly interesting people from Indiana we have seen on this forum far outweighs the negative ones, which is why the question was posed here and not elsewhere.