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Vespertine · 02-04-2005, 09:35 AM

We have a single male friend that we played a lot with last year, and had a great time with. Earlier this fall, he started a new relationship, and our playtime ended.

We remain great friends and see eachother often, in total vanilla fashion. His girlfriend, we all thought, wouldn't be able to understand our past sexual history, and nothing was said to her about it.

Well, seems things have changed now.

Our guy friend was unhappy in a traditional relationship, and expressed his desires to his girlfriend. From what I understand, the two of them have been discussing swinging, and she's open to trying it out.

I'm convinced she's just doing this as a last resort, to stay in a relationship with him. She's a very reserved woman, and this just doesn't seem like a lifestyle for her, IMO. I don't know her that well, but that's the feeling I get. Our friend thinks it would be fun for the four of us to get together, and his girlfriend is looking forward to it as well. My husband is game, he says as long as she's wanting to play, he sees no problem.

But I'm not so sure.

I know regardless of what happens, we'll always be close to our male friend. I also know that if this lifestyle isn't for her, he's prepared to end the relationship. I don't particularly want to be caught in the middle of a break-up, if it plays out that way.

What would you guys do?

02-04-2005, 09:35 AM	#1 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Should we swing with our FB and his new girlfriend? We have a single male friend that we played a lot with last year, and had a great time with. Earlier this fall, he started a new relationship, and our playtime ended. We remain great friends and see eachother often, in total vanilla fashion. His girlfriend, we all thought, wouldn't be able to understand our past sexual history, and nothing was said to her about it. Well, seems things have changed now. Our guy friend was unhappy in a traditional relationship, and expressed his desires to his girlfriend. From what I understand, the two of them have been discussing swinging, and she's open to trying it out. I'm convinced she's just doing this as a last resort, to stay in a relationship with him. She's a very reserved woman, and this just doesn't seem like a lifestyle for her, IMO. I don't know her that well, but that's the feeling I get. Our friend thinks it would be fun for the four of us to get together, and his girlfriend is looking forward to it as well. My husband is game, he says as long as she's wanting to play, he sees no problem. But I'm not so sure. I know regardless of what happens, we'll always be close to our male friend. I also know that if this lifestyle isn't for her, he's prepared to end the relationship. I don't particularly want to be caught in the middle of a break-up, if it plays out that way. What would you guys do?
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