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NWARcouple · 02-01-2005, 11:34 AM

In the past, we have accepted an invite for a private party in which the host coupe reserved a suite at a hotel in their home city. The initial email detailed the evening's itinerary... introductions and coctails at the suite, followed by dinner at a restaraunt. Afterwords, everyone was invited to return to the hotel if they were interested.

One thing that really made us feel comfortable with the situation was the way that the host couple organized the whole thing. In their first email, they not only provided an introduction, but an itenerary, and an idea their attitudes concerning the lifestyle. They also mentioned that if we were interested and available for that date, they would send us a list of all the couples that were invited and/or confirmed. So we knew up front that if we expressed an interest that other couples would have access to our profile, and that we would be able to check out their profiles as well. The host couple made a point to let us know that we were free to contact the other couples to get aquainted before the actual evening.

Out of 12 couples invited almost all of them contacted us in some way prior to the event... I believe 9 or 10 couples actually showed up... And, at least half of these couples lived more than 2 hours away! It was a fun evening, and gave us the chance to meet quite a few couples that otherwise we would not have met. Additionally, we think that giving all the couples the opportunity to email, chat, or whatever ensured a higher percentage of the couples would actually attend.

The only suggestion that I would offer to potential hosts is to make sure everyone knows beforehand if you are hoping to enable any level of group play... Let everyone know that it is a possibility, even if it seems obvious. I know that it can be somewhat of a sticky situation to try to express to people that there are no expectations or obligations, while at the same time preparing the couples for what they might see or encounter. We knew what we were getting into, so it wasn't a problem for us. In fact we thought it was rather obvious... However, there was another couple that didn't really understand that subtlety and were caught off guard.

I would think that in the future, we would be highly unlikely to accept an invitation to a private party (at a house or a hotel) unless a list of possible attendees was provided. However, we would not expect a list if we were going to a monthly social, a club, or any other established function.

02-01-2005, 11:34 AM	#8 (permalink)
NWARcouple Active Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 45 Location: Fayetteville, Arkansas Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:curiousinnwa	Re: Name Dropping In the past, we have accepted an invite for a private party in which the host coupe reserved a suite at a hotel in their home city. The initial email detailed the evening's itinerary... introductions and coctails at the suite, followed by dinner at a restaraunt. Afterwords, everyone was invited to return to the hotel if they were interested. One thing that really made us feel comfortable with the situation was the way that the host couple organized the whole thing. In their first email, they not only provided an introduction, but an itenerary, and an idea their attitudes concerning the lifestyle. They also mentioned that if we were interested and available for that date, they would send us a list of all the couples that were invited and/or confirmed. So we knew up front that if we expressed an interest that other couples would have access to our profile, and that we would be able to check out their profiles as well. The host couple made a point to let us know that we were free to contact the other couples to get aquainted before the actual evening. Out of 12 couples invited almost all of them contacted us in some way prior to the event... I believe 9 or 10 couples actually showed up... And, at least half of these couples lived more than 2 hours away! It was a fun evening, and gave us the chance to meet quite a few couples that otherwise we would not have met. Additionally, we think that giving all the couples the opportunity to email, chat, or whatever ensured a higher percentage of the couples would actually attend. The only suggestion that I would offer to potential hosts is to make sure everyone knows beforehand if you are hoping to enable any level of group play... Let everyone know that it is a possibility, even if it seems obvious. I know that it can be somewhat of a sticky situation to try to express to people that there are no expectations or obligations, while at the same time preparing the couples for what they might see or encounter. We knew what we were getting into, so it wasn't a problem for us. In fact we thought it was rather obvious... However, there was another couple that didn't really understand that subtlety and were caught off guard. I would think that in the future, we would be highly unlikely to accept an invitation to a private party (at a house or a hotel) unless a list of possible attendees was provided. However, we would not expect a list if we were going to a monthly social, a club, or any other established function.
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