Is it swinging? It sounds more like an open relationship to me. Some things I'd be concerned with though. Things, that like others have said, sound great in fantasy but are different in reality.
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Originally Posted by PiercedTedyBear She told me that She had no interest in sleeping with other men and she really wanted me to do this. One reason she stated was the fact that she had several more partners than I did before we got married and she felt like I missed out on the fun and experiences that she had. She tells me that I am the only man for her and she wants me to experiment with other women to make sure she is the one for me. |
To me this should have been something to figure out seven years ago. Swinging is not having sex with other people to figure out if the one you're with is THE ONE.
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Originally Posted by PiercedTedyBear She said that she was very serious, and that she would not mind if I slept with another women as long as there were no feelings involved, Just sex. Of course I initally thought this was a set-up. But after a long talk, she assured me that it was not. |
I don't think it is a set-up either, but be ready when she feels like you are getting the better part of the deal and wants in on the action, with women or men. And if you have a pass to have sex with other women solo, then you better be prepared to give her the same consideration someday down the road when she asks for it.
To us, swinging is something we do as a couple, whether it is with another couple or if it was with a single male or female. The emphasis being on "something we do as a couple". But everybody makes the rules in their own relationship, and what works really well for some doesn't work at all for others.
She could be wanting you to have sex with other women for the voyeuristic aspect of it. It is more common with men to want to watch their wives have sex with other men, but it is the same concept. My wife is turned-on by watching me with another woman. We entered swinging so my wife could explore her bi side, but she wanted to be active in it.
Taken at face value I'd say your wife is thinking like many men I know: the thought of their spouse having sex with someone else is exciting, whether in front of them, or alone and then telling them about it. I don't think she has any alterior motives, but be prepared for when she calls-in the favor someday and wants to be alone with another man. It may never happen, but I think there is a good chance it will.
Mr. WS