I've been thinking about this all day after posting to the Getting Pregnant thread. What would we do and why if I got pregnant from a swinging partner. Mr Spoo and I talked about it and went through the three possible options and what the pros and cons were of each. So here's what we came up with.
First, there is the one that is currently being discussed on the 'getting pregnant' thread of keeping the baby and raising it as your own. For some that may be easy to do. Just pretend it is you and your husband's child and no one will be the wiser. For Mr Spoo and I we both agree neither of us could handle knowing it was another man's child. Weak? Maybe, but everyone in the lifestyle has to make their decisions based on themselves as a couple and what works best for them.
Secondly, have the baby and give it up for adoption. Good choice? You don't have to raise someone else's baby and you don't have to deal with the emotional pain of an abortion. But, here's the repercussions of this decision. Your a happily married couple, maybe (in our case yes) you already have other children, how are you going to explain to EVERYONE why you are giving up your baby? You've carried it nine months, take off time from work, oh, and maybe even had a baby shower, then you give it up?
Then the third choice, the one that makes most people want to cringe to even mention it. Abortion. Not everyones first choice, but very possibly in this lifestyle we all chose to partake in, for some the better choice. Now, don't get me wrong or start blasting
at me. I don't agree with abortion (don't want to get into that here), but if this situation were to happen to me and Mr Spoo I think this is what we would choose.
Why? Mostly because any damage or emotion pain would be contained with me and him. The other swinger's life would not be affected. Work and family would not be hurt or embarrassed. Mr Spoo and I wouldn't be trying to pretend we had a child together that wasn't really ours. We'd deal with the emotional pain of an abortion, probably get out of the lifestyle and move on from there.
Sorry I rambled so long but this was just on my mind. If you reply please remember there are no right or wrong decisions and I didn't do this to argue the evils of abortion. I just wonder for the other couples out there, what would you do?? Which scenerio could the two of you deal with the best?
Mrs Spoomonkey