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Originally Posted by two4youinswva I agree with Ves, it takes the right balance of support.
What I did when she wanted to lose weight was this. I said, "Honey, I think you look great the way you are, but if you feel like you need to lose weight for yourself, I will support you 100% and help you do it until you get to where you want to be."
Now, obviously I wouldn't support her losing weight down to the "heroin chic" look, but as long as she is striving for healthy weight loss, and wants my support, she will have it. She has been very appreciative of my support and encouragement, and has done a great job dropping the weight. |
Being the "new kid on the block" I'd have to say that I agree with your approach. When Mr.Tracker & I met, I weighed xx amount. After having 2 more kids and being on the depressed side, I had gained in excess of 30 pounds. Part of it was due to drinking every nite. (not a good thing) Well, thankfully because of my job, I was able to go on a weight loss program that's really a life-change and have lost 20 pounds. ( I had already lost about 10 pounds before beginning this program). I feel much better about myself, and Mr. Tracker keeps complementing me. Long story longer, before I lost the weight, he kept telling me I was "hot" and looked really good, but I didn't feel that I did. Now that I've lost the weigh, he still complements me, and I now feel more like I look good. I guess what I'm trying to say, is be supportive, but also know that she needs to do for herself what she needs to do, and until she makes that decision, she'll be unhappy with her body image.