[xxoticangel]

Our first playmates were good friends for years before we had sex. It just sort of happened one weekend with no prior planning or talk about swinging. We continued to be friends with them for several more years sometimes playing sometimes not. After the first time, when we decided to enter the swinging world, we decided that swinging was about finding other people that we enjoyed having sex with. After the sex if we hit it off and had other interest in common that would be a bonus. There have been a couple of times that we became close enough to a couple to consider them friends most of our playmates have been just good sex partners with little interaction outside the bedroom. It works for us. With 4 kids we don't have a lot of time to invest in creating friendships that may one day lead to sex.