[good times]

When we first started we were looking for people we got along with for sex. Some of the people we have had sex with have become friends, others have not. We have also met several couples at the clubs that while we don't have sex with them they have become good friends. For us at least, I don't think it is practical to expect that we would become friends with all of our play partners as some people are a lot of fun for play but outside of that we don't have a lot of common interests. In a perfect world we would probably become friends first and then play, but we have come to the conclusion that it is hard enough to find four people that are all compatable sexually the if we insisted they be friends too we would probably never play with anybody. The one thing we have learned since we started swinging is that what makes a couple compatible with us for sex is often totally different than what makes people compatible with us as friends. So I would have to say we haven't changed our approach since we started, we started this to find people we could have sexual fun with, if we engage with them in any activities outside of that it is a bonus but not required or expected.