 Which came first- the friends or the sex?
Hi all! We've seen this discussed in other threads, but there were usually other topics going on as well, so we thought we'd throw this out to see what everyone else thinks----
When you began swinging, were you looking for friends first, then sex, or sex first then become friends with the couple? In other words, were you looking for friends you can have sex with or have sex then hopefully become friends? And if you've been swinging a while, are you still looking for the same thing or has that changed?
It seems like figuring that out gives real insight into the couple and knowing whether you're really going to be compatible in the long-term or not.
And since we asked, we'll answer first, lol. We were looking for friends first, then sex. In the eight months or so we've been swinging, we find that still works for us. It might make the search a bit more challenging, but if we find a good couple we click with, it makes us feel a lot better about ourselves, them and the friendship.
Looking forward to hearing others' responses....
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