The Swingers Board - View Single Post - If he won't stay within their boundaries what makes us think he will stay within ours

DBL D · 01-14-2005, 10:25 PM

You know what? She may just be saying that they set guidelines and called them boundaries when talking with you, and some folks equate that with rules. I see nothing wrong with allowing your partner to do something they said they wouldn't do (or didn't think they would do). If the right time for it comes up then sometimes it happens. Do you have to stop and have a Pow-Wow?

Just because she said that he goes outside their boundaries doesn't mean he would go outside his play partners boundaries.

My dear lady...YOU are the ONE who helps set the boundaries.

I probably didn't say that the best way I could...but I'm tired and it's been a helluva week. Doesn't mean I haven't thought about this topic.

Just another thought...

Male D

01-14-2005, 10:25 PM	#25 (permalink)
DBL D Oh...Why not?... Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 2,312 Location: Northern Call-ee-forn-ee-ah Status: Married Couple	Re: Cold Feet, or Alarms You know what? She may just be saying that they set guidelines and called them boundaries when talking with you, and some folks equate that with rules. I see nothing wrong with allowing your partner to do something they said they wouldn't do (or didn't think they would do). If the right time for it comes up then sometimes it happens. Do you have to stop and have a Pow-Wow? Just because she said that he goes outside their boundaries doesn't mean he would go outside his play partners boundaries. My dear lady...YOU are the ONE who helps set the boundaries. I probably didn't say that the best way I could...but I'm tired and it's been a helluva week. Doesn't mean I haven't thought about this topic. Just another thought... Male D __________________ "Just nod if you can hear me..." David Gilmour Last edited by DBL D : 01-15-2005 at 12:35 AM.