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Originally Posted by JulieNTom

We – and Julie more than I – do both have doubts about not being attractive enough any more. We may be still kind of good looking and we work out 3 times a week now and we are both not heavily overweight...but the more we talk about swinging the more we notice stuff that we don’t like, my belly her cellulites.

Just GO! My guess is that most of the nude people you've seen in your life were in magazines, or in videos and on movie screens. That's not what they look like in real life! In real life, people come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Some have scars, most have cellulite, all have imperfections. None of us is as tall and good looking as they'd like to be, and few (especially middle-aged women) are as unnattractive as the media has convinced us we are.

We both would – I guess - feel a lot easier to do it if we would feel completely comfortable with our bodies

It doesn't matter whether you're carrying a few pounds or drop dead georgeous...the first time you're naked around other people, you're likely to be a little uncomfortable. I know this isn't the best time of year to be contemplating a visit to a nude resort, but learning to be comfortable in the buff was a big help to us in becoming comfortable in the Lifestyle.

The positive side effect is that we started living a healthier lifestyle again, working out etc. But is this the right motivation for swinging?

Anything that encourages you to take better care of your health is the "right" motivation. For my dad, it was a heart attack at 42. For my ex-, it was creeping up on the "Big 5-0" with a week at Hedo coming up 6 months away. Whatever it takes, do it...but don't put your life on hold while you do.

Besides, who's gonna know how much better you look in 6 months, unless they know how far you've come to get there?