 Re: to ugly
JulieNTom-
I know how you feel. When Bear and I started talking about swinging, this was my major problem. I was so scared that no one would think I was attractive. I am a BBW and worried that every man in the lifestyle would be looking for the thin Barbie type. But I have found that most people are attracted to someone who puts forth a confident attitude. Someone who smiles with their whole body and are having fun.
To give you an idea on how little body size matters. I was at our club this past weekend. Bear and I ended up in a room with a total of 10 people. I would guess that all 5 of the women weighed between 180-230LBS. And of the 5 men there, 2 were what I would call skinny, and the others had a few extra LBS on them. And no one in the room was worried about body size. All we cared about was having fun!
I have found that the lifestyle has kept Bear and I in better health. We get more exercise and watch what we eat. I have lost some weight, but due to a health problem, I will never be skinny. And that is ok. I have more self-esteem now and that shows in the way I carry myself.
If you feel conifident in yourself, body size will not matter.
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