 Re: to ugly
JulieNTom, I don't think it's something you need to stress over. There are lots of other people out there in WAAY worse shape. There's no doubt if you go to a club dressed to the nines and a confident attitude, you'll attract attention. That can be a boost. It's a good feeling to know that, yeah! you ARE attractive. And not just to your own partner; he thinks you're beautiful because he knows everything about you and loves you. Other people reaffirm the fact that you are still sexually attractive - even if you don't look like Barbie or Ken. Actually, we tend to seek out people who are a little more 'normal' looking. Mr. likes a woman with a nice round butt and I don't mind if a guy's got a little extra padding around the middle if he's got pretty eyes and good bone structure. Just our preferences.
I'd suggest hitting the gym, treat yourself to a manicure/pedicure, get a waxing, stock the fridge with healthy food... Do things to make yourselves feel good about yourselves. Losing a few pounds may seem daunting, but a solid effort of one month of working out and conscientious eating (Eat for fuel, not for fun) can work wonders. Mr. and I lost a combined total of about 30 lbs. within two months when we did this. You'll find that you're happier with the way you look, proud of yourselves for taking the bull by the horns and living well, and more at ease with yourselves in swinging situations. It's not about vanity or the relentless pursuit of perfection; it's about living to your potential and being happy with what you see in the mirror.
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