I'm not perfect for sure. Of course, my man says he thinks I look great... but he has to say that!!!
But really, sometimes just getting out, even to a regular niteclub or bar can make you feel better when you notice you are getting attention. We were hesitant too until we went to our first swinging bar, but from the attention I got, my self-esteem was boosted and I have more confidence. Now I believe my husband when he says I look good! Just dress up so that you both feel sexy and go out, maybe to an off-premise place, and see what kind of reaction you get. It will be fun!