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Hello JulieNTom, Attraction is one of those topics that is so subjective, what's attractive to one person may or may not be attractive to someone else. The best thing you can do is take care of yourselves, be happy and comfortable with yourselves and realize that there are people who will find you attractive. We can't deny that there are people out there who go solely on physical appearance- you have to have a certain look for them, etc. but there are a lot of people for whom there's more to it than that. For us, it's a combination of physical appearance and attitude. You guys obviously care about yourselves and that goes a long way toward being attractive to others-if you don't care about your bodies, you can't really expect others to do so.

As for things like bellies, cellulite, wrinkles, stretch marks, etc- we all have things like that. None of us has the perfect body all the time- hubby and I don't, nor do we expect others to. Seems like most people have things they're self-conscious about, but it's always more noticeable to them than it is to anyone else who might be looking.

It sounds like you guys are doing a good job. Just remind yourselves attractiveness is more than what you can see in a glance and if you feel good about and take care of yourselves, others will see it too!