I could use comments from any and all, especially the ladies, because who knows a lady better than another one?
The Mrs. has been going through a rough time for the last 6 months or so. A combination of issues, both physical/health-related and emotional, have led to her feeling very dissatisfied with the way that she looks. She used to be a pro ballet dancer, so there is a lot of pining for the good old days when she was around 100 pounds, even though she knows it's 10 years later and bodies change naturally over time. She has gained some weight, but not nearly as much as she thinks - she's extremely hard on herself. Her self-confidence level is low more days than it is high, but when it is high, she gets all dolled up and looks amazing...and I'm being objective here.
Anyway, cutting the novel short, as her husband, what are some suggestions for my approach whenever she brings up this topic? My goal is to be supportive and attentive to her feelings, yet not make her feel like I think she is overweight (which I don't). She expresses a need to try and lose weight the right way (diet and exercise), so I want to help her without making it look like I'm too eager, which leads to her thinking that I think that she's overweight.
Did you follow that? I barely hung on, and I wrote it.
Anyway, all viewpoints are appreciated, and all unanswered questions will be answered. It's a very delicate balancing act here, and I need you guys to be my "pole" for the high wire. Thanks in advance!
Mr. Funk
Looking down, but there's no safety net...Yikes!