Hubby and I don't swing separately, but when we see a couple we are interested in meeting, we'll try to strike up a conversation with them, or invite them to do something, like play a game of pool. We go to the clubs more for the social and meeting aspects, and would probably discuss a playdate at a later time (We like the whole dinner then play evening). I'm still a bit more reserved than hubby is- but getting better- about approaching people. If someone approaches us though, then I'm probably more social at first. We've noticed though, that if a woman is comfortable enough to make a move, the guy is usually more than receptive,
Hope this helps some, and good luck. It gets easier with time, doesn't it?