[JustAskJulie]

Honestly, to me it sounds like you want things on your terms or nothing. She was right to say that you guys should stop swinging when you couldn't agree on boundaries. And if you are going to be able to do what you want then she should be able to do what she wants. It sounds to me like since you aren't getting anything out of the GB's and don't particularly care for them that you think she should stop doing them.

Does the fact that she enjoys gangbangs once a month make her addicted to them? NO. No more so than any couples who enjoys swinging once a month (or more), many couples enjoy swinging for much more than a year or two.

All that said, if you really want to completely stop swinging and have told her so, that you want it all to stop and she refuses to do so, then you have much bigger problems and I doubt they have anything to do with gangbangs. Basically, she has lost respect for you (and based on what I've read, I'm not surprised), and from the sounds of it you are losing respect for her as well for her decisions to participate in gangbangs.

At this point you guys need some serious marriage counseling to rebuild your relationship and work from there. The swinging has to stop if your relationship is to continue.