[SnozzberryBlu]

Thanks so much all of you for being so supportive! And, Intuition, you were not judgemental at all. Everyone has been great.

Hubby has felt a lot better hearing from you all (and not just me) that this is a common problem for beginners. That much I knew, just didn't know much more. I don't think pairing off would be acceptable to either of the guys in this situation, but I am going to see about getting more samples of levitra or viagara.

I think the overstimulation, plus just not knowing exactly what to expect (since all our other experiences were so bad) played a big part. I have a few ideas, plus the suggested FMF that might help. The other husband has already called today to check on us, make sure we are ok, etc. And that helped hubby some too. When I talked to him I asked him about letting his wife and I do the FMF, and he was more than ok with that. So... now we have something new to plan for. Not to mention hubby pipes up and says "hmmm sounds like they had a good time, guess they are going to want to get together again soon, seeing as how our relationship together is still all new and everything." ... so hehe he is still interested, and I don't think at all hurt like he had been in the past. He does keep saying just how different these two people are .. and how much he likes that.

One question tho... alcohol... now, in our experiences together, alcohol has always been an enhancer, never the opposite. In fact, the major side effect for him is a nearly permanent hardon... takes forever for him to come. I know this is quite different from many other's experiences, so my thoughts were that he would actually have a few drinks before we even left the house (it takes a LOT for him to get buzzed).

So... here is the question... if this works for us when we are alone, is there any reason it wouldn't with another couple? Any thoughts on that out there?

Thanks again everyone, so much!