 Re: Dealing with feelings
It happens to a lot of us, and the guilt can linger a bit. Did you talk with your wife a little more in-depth since? How did she feel?
When Mrs. Funk and I have a little get-together (pun intended), we always talk about it later and maybe for days afterward. We did that the first time, and we made sure that both of our needs were taken care of and that we had fun. When that was established, the guilt gave way to excitement and anticipation for the next time. Ever since, the guilt doesn't come back...only the concern for the other's well-being. The difference between hot, fun sex and intimate lovemaking is well-defined for both of us, so guilt has been kicked out and won't be let back in.
Communicate with each other if you haven't already - it makes a huge difference.
Mr. Funk
Listening To The "Swingers" Soundtrack, Believe It Or Not
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