[northindycpl]

Advice From Mrs. Indy....

As a women, it wouldn't bother me in the least if Mr. Indy didn't have an erection form the first time at play. I, too, sometimes have difficulty getting aroused in unknown situations. I think the arousal issue is a much bigger deal to men than to women, though.

We have never tried any kind of medication for arousal, but I know some do use it. However, the thing that work for us (as a couple when we need mutual arousal) Is to think of what arouses us in the first place. I have spent a lot of time communicating with Mr. Indy about what turns him on. Knowing what turns him on, then I can behave in a way to entice him, in situations that I am interested in. Just knowing that we are on the same page, always relieves the pressure.

In our instances, it is mostly me that has arousal issues. I get nervous in unknown situations, which causes me to get slightly uptight. And liquer is not the answer. When I am not aroused, I am not 'wet' which makes sex painful, or makes Mr. Indy not as excited. Just knowing that we have all the time in the world, and have no pressure is fantastic. Even if I don't get wet I still always have a great time!

Communication, relaxation, and exploration are our keys to success!