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Fred&Wilma · 12-27-2004, 11:38 AM

BigBird
As far as I am concerned, 80%+ of a sexual experience occurs between the ears. Unfortunately the majority of the stimulation also occurs between the ears. In your case it sounds like physical stimulation triggers the horny grey matter to open the blood supply to the Big Johnson. There are many reasons that your concern is occurring.
- age
- weight
- fitness
- attitude (uneasiness)
- too much alcohol
- not enough alcohol (there is a balance - enough to relax you and not too much that you are embalmed)
- sexual anticipation
- stress
- smoking - yes it does eventually have an effect.

Wilma has commented that the big guy just does not jump up the same as he used too. An explanation in my case would be age, fitness & attitude. You younger ones on the board, listen up - in some ways - getting old sucks. Your maturity adds or enhances things, but sometimes the old bod just does not want to keep up. Keep yourselves fit. By attitude I mean, when we are young just the thought of sexual anticipation can create a monument in your pants, as we grow older what was exotic now is regular. Different enhancements or incentives are required and with a willing and understanding partner there should be no problem.

Big Bird - Whoever you are playing with needs to comprehend that you require physical stimulation or you need to explore other options that stimulate the horny grey matter. It can be an adventure, it can be fun.

Two years ago I went through period that the Big Johnson started to inform me that things would not always work the same. Tried the drug stuff which is good, but I am not a big proponent of continous medication. Started to work on my fitness, which has helped. Discussed with Wilma who was more than willing to figure out what was required. (Damn I do love that girl!). Personally, things are working just fine now, thank you very much. There are other things which you need to figure out as you understand yourself and your partner best. The answer is there, just have to go looking for it.

Take care and good luck

Fred soapbox

I will sit down and shut up now.

12-27-2004, 11:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Fred&Wilma Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 95 Location: Michigan Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Fred & Wilma	Re: Hoping this changes.... BigBird As far as I am concerned, 80%+ of a sexual experience occurs between the ears. Unfortunately the majority of the stimulation also occurs between the ears. In your case it sounds like physical stimulation triggers the horny grey matter to open the blood supply to the Big Johnson. There are many reasons that your concern is occurring. - age - weight - fitness - attitude (uneasiness) - too much alcohol - not enough alcohol (there is a balance - enough to relax you and not too much that you are embalmed) - sexual anticipation - stress - smoking - yes it does eventually have an effect. Wilma has commented that the big guy just does not jump up the same as he used too. An explanation in my case would be age, fitness & attitude. You younger ones on the board, listen up - in some ways - getting old sucks. Your maturity adds or enhances things, but sometimes the old bod just does not want to keep up. Keep yourselves fit. By attitude I mean, when we are young just the thought of sexual anticipation can create a monument in your pants, as we grow older what was exotic now is regular. Different enhancements or incentives are required and with a willing and understanding partner there should be no problem. Big Bird - Whoever you are playing with needs to comprehend that you require physical stimulation or you need to explore other options that stimulate the horny grey matter. It can be an adventure, it can be fun. Two years ago I went through period that the Big Johnson started to inform me that things would not always work the same. Tried the drug stuff which is good, but I am not a big proponent of continous medication. Started to work on my fitness, which has helped. Discussed with Wilma who was more than willing to figure out what was required. (Damn I do love that girl!). Personally, things are working just fine now, thank you very much. There are other things which you need to figure out as you understand yourself and your partner best. The answer is there, just have to go looking for it. Take care and good luck Fred soapbox I will sit down and shut up now.
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