[Bigbird]

Not sure if this question should be posted here, but since we are new...er swingers I was wondering if any other man has had this problem.

I find that when we swap, I have no problem getting hard. But as soon as we switch positions (like me giving oral) where I don't have direct stimulation I end up getting soft. What I am finding is it is becoming increasingly more difficult to get hard again. Most of the time I can even cum while being semi-hard but the little man just doesn't want to sit up straight.

Now I have tried viagra and cialis and both work just fine, I just don't want to get to the point where I think that the only way I can perform is with those pills.

So I guess my question is this....as we get more into swinging and more comfortable will I just relax to the point where it works normally.....like it does when I am just with my wife? I know that this isn't the most "manly" of questions but I can't be the only one with this issue......

Ok be gentle....lol