[EvilMJ]

I remember our first swing experience. It was filled with emotional ups and downs. PRobably because we swapped in separate rooms (something we have decided never to do again).

We both felt a little strange at first, however after a little time alone we were able to work past those feelings and realize that swinging (for us, I can't speak for others) is recreational sex, just for fun. What we have is love. In fact after we started to swing I realized how lucky I am to have the wonderful husband I do, and how much I love him.

I can't relate to the not being with someone else situation that you have to deal with , as I have had many boyfriends before I got married, and I am my hubby's second wife. Maybe that made things easier for us.

Good luck.. if you just remind each other how much in love you are I think you will be fine... otherwise, you could always take a break or slow things down until you work thinks out.