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SexhoundDog · 12-23-2004, 10:30 AM

Bigun,

I suppose that could be a natural feeling the first time. Perhaps you feel that you've somehow cheated on her, but you haven't if you didn't force her to partake.

How does your wife feel about it? She's the one who had never had another man. Perhaps you both feel that you've given something of yourself that you'd reserved only for yourselves to other people.

Personally, I think it speaks to the strength in your marriage. You weren't afraid to give yourselves to others because you know you'd come back to one another. I look at it this way. You gave her a gift of getting to indulge a fantasy of being with another guy. Let's face it, we've all thought about having sex with someone else, and if your wife had never been with another guy, you can bet she's always wondered. Now she doesn't have to.

You gave her a chance to find out, a gift not many guys would give their wife. And when the party was over, who did she come home with?

I thought so. Talk about it with her, tell her you love her more than words can say, and I bet the guilt will quickly go away.

12-23-2004, 10:30 AM	#5 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Re: Dealing with feelings Bigun, I suppose that could be a natural feeling the first time. Perhaps you feel that you've somehow cheated on her, but you haven't if you didn't force her to partake. How does your wife feel about it? She's the one who had never had another man. Perhaps you both feel that you've given something of yourself that you'd reserved only for yourselves to other people. Personally, I think it speaks to the strength in your marriage. You weren't afraid to give yourselves to others because you know you'd come back to one another. I look at it this way. You gave her a gift of getting to indulge a fantasy of being with another guy. Let's face it, we've all thought about having sex with someone else, and if your wife had never been with another guy, you can bet she's always wondered. Now she doesn't have to. You gave her a chance to find out, a gift not many guys would give their wife. And when the party was over, who did she come home with? I thought so. Talk about it with her, tell her you love her more than words can say, and I bet the guilt will quickly go away.