We are still totally new to the lifestyle. We've met really great friends, people to just hang out with and enjoy, and those we seriously want to play with. Last weekend we had our first experience, and it was FANTASTIC!
We had gone to a club with a couple that we count as friends (our first time to a club), and after having a wonderful time closing down the club, they invited us to their room for a drink.
Another couple that were friends of theirs ended up coming over too. Things started slow and my hubby and I just went with the flow. Before we knew it, clothes were coming off, and we found that the bed really would hold 6 without breaking
The wife of the original couple is now probably the best friend I've ever had, the guys are good buds, and we wouldn't mind playing with the other couple again either. So it is definitely possible to find both in this lifestyle.