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RippleCpl · 12-08-2004, 11:45 PM

I wonder if the Mrs. and I have a screwy outlook on this whole swinging thing. We are looking for friends in and out of the bedroom. Is this a classic newbie mistake? I realize that most people need to click with someone in order to get intimate, but I think we are looking for more than just clicking (and I don't think I'm talking polyamory).

I imagine that everyone here has friendships that vary in their level of closeness. Some people you would feel comfortable eating dinner with, but you would never ask them to pick you up at the airport at 2 am. Other people would do anything for you ("lean on me, when you're not strong...etc.") Is it possible or even desirable to develop friendships like that through swinging? Does this kind of talk scare people away?

12-08-2004, 11:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
RippleCpl Active Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 27 Location: Indianapolis, IN Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:indyripplecouple	Clicking versus real friendship I wonder if the Mrs. and I have a screwy outlook on this whole swinging thing. We are looking for friends in and out of the bedroom. Is this a classic newbie mistake? I realize that most people need to click with someone in order to get intimate, but I think we are looking for more than just clicking (and I don't think I'm talking polyamory). I imagine that everyone here has friendships that vary in their level of closeness. Some people you would feel comfortable eating dinner with, but you would never ask them to pick you up at the airport at 2 am. Other people would do anything for you ("lean on me, when you're not strong...etc.") Is it possible or even desirable to develop friendships like that through swinging? Does this kind of talk scare people away?