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Old 12-02-2004, 09:51 PM   #1 (permalink)
Spoomonkey
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Default Dealing with situations that affect your self-esteem

One of the positives in this lifestyle is how it helps self-esteem...

One of the negatives is how it can hurt self-esteem...

When you guys have things happen - as silly as they may be - that kind of get in deep and bug you quite a bit - how do you deal with it?

We recently had a situation where I was really rejected pretty coldly and it sort of bugged me. I honestly am not used to that - not trying to be cocky or anything, but we tend to connect with the right people I guess. We've had people kindly say "no" which we understand - no chemistry, no play, no problem... But we had all actually gotten to a room, played a bit and then it turned into a "reject the monkey" fest...

This was a couple of weeks ago and it still kind of eats at me - and I wish I could turn it off...

Any suggestions?

Any encouragement?

I know I'm not perfect, but seriously, couldn't she have said so before we all bothered to go upstairs and get naked?

Maybe she's just scared of purple...

I hesitate to post this because it gives folks a chance to take a pretty heavy swipe at me, but it is a legitimate question because I am sure it has happened to all of us at one time or the other...

Heck - if a chick would reject me, she'd reject anyone

Hehe...

*sigh*

Just kidding...

help?

Spoomonkey
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