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Originally Posted by dave110256 This one will get me in trouble............
How do I tell my wife she is gaining weight without hurting her feelings or pissing her off. Lately she has been eating like a cow and I don't like what I'm seeing.....can someone give me some advice? |
Wow! I have to say I'm a little shocked by this. Even though your wife probably won't be reading this I think you're already walking in danger zone when you say that she is eatting like a cow. In my opinion you need to think about what leads you to talk about her in such a derogatory way. Even if she is gaining weight there is no reason to say that she is eatting like a cow. I've struggled with weight issues myself I have so say that the bulk of the problem is usually psychological. You can't start thinking about her that way without it having an effect on her. As well, that kind of thinking will be refected in the way you act towards her. In short, it's not going to help and it stands a good chance of making things worse. Take a step back and forget about the weight. Look at your lifestyles together. Do you eat well? Do you exercise regularly? If not, start suggesting fun things you can do together along these lines. I wouldn't say anything about weight to her. She knows her own body better than anyone else. If you're noticing extra weight now chances are she noticed it a long time ago. She'll hop on the scales and take aggressive action against the weight if and when *she* wants to (with or without your comments).
I might have rambled a bit here but I really feel strongly about the weight issue and I find comments like, "she's eatting like a cow" to be quite offensive.