The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Changing the "Rules" or more Broken Agreements

emptynest · 11-30-2004, 09:11 PM

Everyone who has replied to you seems to be in agreement that you have a problem. We have been swinging for 20 years and I think we've seen it all and I can tell you that what your wife is doing is destined to destroy your marriage. Both my wife and I have wanted alone time with certain partners from time to time. It is natural I think. It requires confidence in your relationship with your spouse to let them be alone with someone, and even then it should be done in the next room while you are with the other spouse but definitely not while you are at home pacing the floor! In the case of MFM threesomes, I have never known of a woman wanting to be with the other guy for an hour before the husband joins. Like JCBicouple said, swinging is about both of you. Regarding your wife using the "I Did what you wanted me to do" card, keeping score is unhealthy because " The injuries we do and those we suffer are seldom weighed on the same scale.

11-30-2004, 09:11 PM	#10 (permalink)
emptynest Registered Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 6 Location: St. Pete	Re: Changing the "Rules" or more Broken Agreements Everyone who has replied to you seems to be in agreement that you have a problem. We have been swinging for 20 years and I think we've seen it all and I can tell you that what your wife is doing is destined to destroy your marriage. Both my wife and I have wanted alone time with certain partners from time to time. It is natural I think. It requires confidence in your relationship with your spouse to let them be alone with someone, and even then it should be done in the next room while you are with the other spouse but definitely not while you are at home pacing the floor! In the case of MFM threesomes, I have never known of a woman wanting to be with the other guy for an hour before the husband joins. Like JCBicouple said, swinging is about both of you. Regarding your wife using the "I Did what you wanted me to do" card, keeping score is unhealthy because " The injuries we do and those we suffer are seldom weighed on the same scale.