great points again....
and i think that i agree w/ the suggestion from jcbicpl and others about including the "curious" aspect of really knowing that we are both bi.
i guess i thought that it was being honest when we started exploring and talking to others...and that the "curious" said that we were "bi-virgins"
...I have thought this myself many times though, about the fact that if you KNOW you want a same sex experience you are pretty much just Bi....
and the more i have learned (especially where the internet is concerned) over the past months, i think you guys are right on in your comments. it does seem to be the common term used for people out looking for something other than what they say they are!
so i think that i will take the advice here, and from now on label myself as just simply a Married Bi Female! simple enough, and the male version of that goes for the hubby. I think, like others have said, it is just easier that way...and of course all needed details can be discussed as the talk progresses with each couple/individual.