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Originally Posted by LadyHawke I'm 31 (my husband is 32) and am a women's size 20 and I'm 5'7 or so. I am a 44D. Never considered it sexy, although my husband definitely does. My husband is not skinny either. We are not grossly overweight but I have never particularly found my size to be attractive in myself OR others. |
B is size 20, and 44DD, so very similar to you. We wish we were still 31, however!
Even at 50, she's the most beautiful woman in the world, to me, and just getting prettier all the time. But that's what you'd expect a 31-year husband to think, right? Well, let me tell you a bit more.
Go click through to our profile on Swing Lifestyle. It's in our signature at the bottom of this post. Check out her pics. I'll wait.
Back? Pretty hot, huh?
Yeah, *I* think so, but you know what, a whole lot of other guys, often younger, also think so. She was like you, she didn't believe me when I told her how beautiful she is. Well, you know what? Every single email we have received on those pics was complimentary, and we got a lot of them.
Are there folks out there who only want Barbie? You bet! Are they all there is? Not by a long shot!
Try it and see. Get some good, flattering pics made. Not "glamour" pics, but just nice, candid, good light, flattering. They don't have to show your face. Put them up and see what happens. See what comments and "suggestions" you get.
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Originally Posted by LadyHawke Am I wrong in thinking that most swingers are probably a lot more confident overall (than me, especially) or does everyone have reservations about their own attractiveness ? |
Many swingers are probably more confident, simply because they've overcome that same hurdle already. But they didn't start out that way.
Yes, ALL of us have reservations about our own attractiveness, including (maybe especially) the Ken & Barbie types. But the proof is in the pudding! Do cool, attractive people find you attractive? Any of them? Well, there's at least one, right? Your husband. And I'm willing to bet he's no idiot, and has good taste. So put on your logic hat for a second and realize that if he finds you attractive, there are *guaranteed* to be other folks who will find you attractive. He's not crazy just because he's crazy about you.
When it's idealized sex in fantasies, we can all be pretty picky. But for people who come down out of the fantasy world, and have real sex in real life with real people, well, you soon find out that real people aren't like fantasy people. They come with warts and complications, but they're also *way* more exciting and satisfying when things go well. And it's often the case that the people you find most fun in bed are *not* the ones you'd pick out of a picture. Real life ain't pictures. Real life swinging is with real people - and people are like a book in that you can't judge much about the contents from the cover.
Mr. DBStPete