[DBStPete]

I think xxoticangel makes an excellent point. If you know (or at least are really sure) that you want to have same-sex sex, then you are bi, not "bi-curious", at least in the context of what people mean by that in ads.

As has been pointed out in this thread, what people put in their ads regarding their gender-sex desires deosn't necessarily map 100% with who they really are, for various good (and sometimes not-so-good) reasons. What is put in ads is often more about what is desired than what is possible. Another example of this is the vast majority of couples who say NO SINGLE MEN in their ads. A large percentage of those couples do, in fact, play with single men on occasion. So why don't they say so? Because they don't want the siode-effects of such a public declaration.

For you guys, you *want* bi, even though you don't have much (any) experience yet. That suggests to me you should label yourself as bi, not bi-curious. That way you show up on the radar screens of the folks like jcbicouple. I think all of us, as swingers, are more likely to respond to those who are seriously interested in our particular interest, rather than folks who are "open minded, will try anything". As to your lack of experience, you can explain your exact situation to prospective playmates during the meetup process. While some will say "no" on that basis, most will, I think, not hold that against you if it gets that far.

Mr. DBStPete