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LadyHawke · 11-29-2004, 10:54 AM

Hi to all ! I have been reading threads and posts for 2 days now as I have a lot to learn. Dusty, your post inspired me to register so I CAN post on this topic. I am totally new to the forum and to the lifestyle.

I feel SO MUCH like you do ! I am open to new experiences and have, in fact, had a couple of experiences already with a female friend of my husband's - that involved the 3 of us. However, I often am very self-conscious for all the reasons that you mentioned. I am no Barbie, although my husband tells me that I'm beautiful. And I know that HE believes it, but I don't believe that I am a main-stream beauty and have no idea if I'd be appealing to other swingers. Our female friend finds me attractive as well, but she's no barbie either. I don't see any... "not skinny" ... swinger avatars, btw !

I'm 31 (my husband is 32) and am a women's size 20 and I'm 5'7 or so. I am a 44D. Never considered it sexy, although my husband definitely does. My husband is not skinny either. We are not grossly overweight but I have never particularly found my size to be attractive in myself OR others.

This is the first thread that I've encountered that addressed this issue.
Am I wrong in thinking that most swingers are probably a lot more confident overall (than me, especially) or does everyone have reservations about their own attractiveness ?

Looking forward to all of your responses...

11-29-2004, 10:54 AM	#8 (permalink)
LadyHawke Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 18 Location: Bisbee, AZ Status: Single Female Swing Lifestyle Name:LadyHawke	Re: A few Questions Hi to all ! I have been reading threads and posts for 2 days now as I have a lot to learn. Dusty, your post inspired me to register so I CAN post on this topic. I am totally new to the forum and to the lifestyle. I feel SO MUCH like you do ! I am open to new experiences and have, in fact, had a couple of experiences already with a female friend of my husband's - that involved the 3 of us. However, I often am very self-conscious for all the reasons that you mentioned. I am no Barbie, although my husband tells me that I'm beautiful. And I know that HE believes it, but I don't believe that I am a main-stream beauty and have no idea if I'd be appealing to other swingers. Our female friend finds me attractive as well, but she's no barbie either. I don't see any... "not skinny" ... swinger avatars, btw ! I'm 31 (my husband is 32) and am a women's size 20 and I'm 5'7 or so. I am a 44D. Never considered it sexy, although my husband definitely does. My husband is not skinny either. We are not grossly overweight but I have never particularly found my size to be attractive in myself OR others. This is the first thread that I've encountered that addressed this issue. Am I wrong in thinking that most swingers are probably a lot more confident overall (than me, especially) or does everyone have reservations about their own attractiveness ? Looking forward to all of your responses...