If you are near Austin you might be near San Antonio.
Try a Saturday night here:
http://www.texasplayers.com
It is a fun, sexy environment. You can do some dancing and watching.
There is no sex there so she can relax, maybe.
Spend some time talking to other couples and let her talk to the other women.
I wouldn't expect that this will be the night, though.
Think in terms of six months at least form here.