 Re: Hubby doesn't understand No!!!
Our advice is to stop any kind of swinging activities immediately, and start talking to each other. You need to get his side of the story, and you need to be very honest with him about how you are feeling, and how you felt that night.
For us this is all about sharing, and it is most definitely NOT about each of us ‘getting our own’ so to speak. This may have been an innocent mistake (hard to see it that way, but it could have been) but in any case you two need to have a discussion about what your rules are and how you felt when they were broken. Unless you two are on the same page, looking out for each other’s emotional well being and placing the other’s happiness at least equal to (if not above) your own, we predict very trying times ahead.
Successful swingers have very strong primary relationships, and treat each other with the utmost respect. Folks who are not secure in that first and foremost would be well advised to reconsider stepping into this arena.
Good luck, and we hope it works out for you guys!
DnA
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