[Hellboy]

Wow, that is exactly the situation I am in and we had that discussion today. She loves the fantasy (especially FF) but there is a morality issue that holde her back. She made an off handed comment today after sex "I'd never do that" and blew holes in my fantasies.

After discussing it a while on a car ride across town to pick up the kids, she said it came down to our wedding vows. Honestly, she is more attractive than I am and she really has no worries about losing me. Its just she has a hard time wrapping her head around it being "ok" if its both of us together. We ended with "were not there yet, but we are expanding our horizons, so you never know" Which I can accept. Hell, I can accept flat out "no" if that's what she wants, but I don't want some artificial barriers to be what stops us.

So I will continue to work slowly in that direction. I don't ever want it to get to the point where I am trying to "convince" her to do it.