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Old 11-23-2004, 04:15 PM   #7 (permalink)
Vespertine
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Default Re: Changing the "Rules" or more Broken Agreements

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Originally Posted by masscpl469
I propose an MFM with us and our new friend, but she hesitates. She explains that she and he both feel that there's tension when I'm there, and that we're not compatible. (She's compatible with me and compatible with him, but not the 3 of us together - got it?)
If the three of you aren't compatible, then nobody plays. Your comfort (as well as hers) should come before any playmate. I can tell you right now, if my husband put a lover's desires over mine, we'd never swing again.

That's just waaaaay uncool.

I admire all the leway you've allowed your wife so far. ...but enough is enough. This is way past being confident in your relationship and being generous. You're losing the respect you deserve.

Find a way to compromise with her, tell her either you get a few extracuricular activities you want (ie: another woman), or her cuckolding days are over.

Good Luck. Let us know what happens.
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