 Re: Hot and Cold
In another thread that's active today, a man who learned his wife had lied about having several sexual partners (in her past) compared his wife to a used car.
This is the kind of thing a woman who wants to explore her naughty side fights against. Not that I'm saying she thinks you'll call her a used car, but she may not be 100% convinced you'll think well of her after the heat of the moment passes. (Like biblonde pointed out, she needs reassurance from you.)
Talking about it during sex is an excellent way to start, but I think you've been very wise to bring it up during a non-intimate moment. Her response is a great sign! Sexhounddog makes a good point to not be in a hurry to "have a plan." Sometimes figuring out the plan together, baby step by baby step, is very exciting. And the more she feels invested in the plan, the more excited she'll be about acting on it when she's ready. It can be like foreplay ...
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