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I think it is a little of both truthfully. It was hard for me at first to let the Naughty girl cum out so to speak..lol..And after having kids you really dont feel like the sexy naughty thing that our hubbies want us to feel like. You feel like a mom! And the old saying good girls dont do that really comes into play also. We are taught to be ladies and act like ladies all the time...If you have sex with anyone but your spouse you are a slut..whore..etc. It is hard to overcome that kind of teaching. It just takes time to rethink what you have been taught as a girl and know that it is okay to be wild and crazy. And that sex isnt a way of showing love tward someone else..it is just sex..or as hubby puts it, it is a sport. Beleive me there is alot that goes through your mind when you really start thinking about this kind of lifestyle. And like I said earlier..you also think about what your hubby is going to think of you if you are willing to do it. Although I knew my hubbies desires I still worried that he would think less of me or find me less attractive if I were with other men or women. We had many many talks about this before I was comfy enough to just let myself go and play out my own fantasies. It takes lots of talk and reasurance that this isnt going to ruine what you have with your spouce or SO. In the 2 years we have been doing this I see our marrage getting even stronger than it was and we are so much closer to each other. We now talk about every little desire or fantasy we each has and instead of feeling embarassed by them we enjoy the talks and well that leads to lots of fun!!

just my 2 cents for the day!