Hey there....Ms. 20ish here. In My Opinion, I don't think that it's really fair for her to use the " I did everything you wanted me to do" card everytime she and he feel the need for a lil 1-on-1. I think that you letting her have a 1-on-1 even though you felt uncomfortable was very brave of you. I am also not comfortable RIGHT NOW with another female with my Mr., but I wouldn't ever keep him out of the loop so much. When there is any encounter, he is there, the same room, he would agree to just listen, but I'd never leave the house and go off for 4 or 5 hours and expect Mr. 20ish to be okay. I wouldn't want it done to me, therefore I could never do that to him. If it was what he wanted me to do, I would consider it, but would have a hard time feeling comfortable doing it while he was not even in the same building. Ya know what I mean? I understand needing to get to know someone before an encounter, to make you feel more comfortable. But how can He or She expect you to be comfortable with something if you are never invited to get to know the new person either. The Single Guy that you talked about in your post, obviously just wants your wife to his self. To me that isn't cool, from a woman's point of view, its sexy for another man to want you all to his self, but this is only causing problems within your relationship...is totally wrong. I think that you guys need a break from the lifestyle. I understand that you want to please your wife, but I think that you've more than made up for "all the things she did for you" it's time you just tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable, you are not happy with it, and that you would like you guys to take a well needed break from the lifestyle and work on things between you. Trust me, it will be much better for you in the long run. If you wanna make your relationship work, you need to talk it out and tell her that IF and When you guys are ready to get back into swinging, it must be a mutual thing that you do together, and set ground rule #1.....No 1-on-1's if it makes you uncomfortable. I don't know that my reply will help you or not, but maybe it will give you a lil piece of mind knowing that there is someone else who can understand why you feel like you do. My thoughts are with you and I really hope that you and your lady work things out and move past this. Swinging is fun, but definately not worth losing you love over.
Thanks for listening...Ms. 20ish ~
