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Originally Posted by twolovers4fun Some of the rules we talked about include, no kissing, no oral sex (giving or receiving), not allowing self to orgasm while with the other couple, and maintaing eye contact off and on throught to make sure we watch for signs in our partner of being overwhelmed. Do these rules sound plausible or too restrictive? I guess we have the idea of having "raw sex" is what we want at least right now.
Are we going about this the right way? Is starting off with a hands off approach realistic, and then moving into partial swap eventually? |
You are doing the right thing by agreeing to ground rules that you both can live with...and sticking to them (if either of you wants to change them, don't do it in the middle of the play session - wait until the next time so you can discuss it first!). Many couples - including us - started off slow.
As for maintaining eye contact, may i suggest using a key word that tells your partner when you're overwhelmed. Key words work very well - we know several couples who use them.
I would also encourage you to let the other couple know what the ground rules are before you're all standing there naked.
- Jim