The Swingers Board - View Single Post - No kissing, no oral sex, no orgasm...too restrictive?

twolovers4fun · 11-19-2004, 12:53 PM

Hello everyone, I'm the male half of the couple. We are an early thirties couple new to the idea of getting into playing and diversifying our sexuality. She is 34, I am 33. We have been together for nearly 7 months now, and while we have discussed this before, we have only in the last week been exploring the idea of getting together with another couple. Last weekend we had a male aquintance we met through an adult ad bulletin film us while having sex. It was entirely hands off for him, he just filmed us. We did that in an attempt to see how we were in the presence of another person or persons.

I have had some prior experience with 3somes and 4somes, but she hasn't had the opportunity. We have a very solid relationship, we have excellent communication, and are just looking to explore this lifestyle.

We have agreed that we want to start off slow, and take baby steps as it were to make sure we both remain comfortable. We have talked about groundrules and how we want to approach the swapping that could eventually take place.

Since being filmed last week by this other man, we want to introduce a couple into the mix under the same scenario, and have them film us, as us them if they choose to.

Some of the rules we talked about include, no kissing, no oral sex (giving or receiving), not allowing self to orgasm while with the other couple, and maintaing eye contact off and on throught to make sure we watch for signs in our partner of being overwhelmed. Do these rules sound plausible or too restrictive? I guess we have the idea of having "raw sex" is what we want at least right now.

Are we going about this the right way? Is starting off with a hands off approach realistic, and then moving into partial swap eventually?

I love her very much and am excited that we can try this together.

11-19-2004, 12:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
twolovers4fun Registered Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 6 Location: portsmouth,ma Status: single female	Curious couple from NY Hello everyone, I'm the male half of the couple. We are an early thirties couple new to the idea of getting into playing and diversifying our sexuality. She is 34, I am 33. We have been together for nearly 7 months now, and while we have discussed this before, we have only in the last week been exploring the idea of getting together with another couple. Last weekend we had a male aquintance we met through an adult ad bulletin film us while having sex. It was entirely hands off for him, he just filmed us. We did that in an attempt to see how we were in the presence of another person or persons. I have had some prior experience with 3somes and 4somes, but she hasn't had the opportunity. We have a very solid relationship, we have excellent communication, and are just looking to explore this lifestyle. We have agreed that we want to start off slow, and take baby steps as it were to make sure we both remain comfortable. We have talked about groundrules and how we want to approach the swapping that could eventually take place. Since being filmed last week by this other man, we want to introduce a couple into the mix under the same scenario, and have them film us, as us them if they choose to. Some of the rules we talked about include, no kissing, no oral sex (giving or receiving), not allowing self to orgasm while with the other couple, and maintaing eye contact off and on throught to make sure we watch for signs in our partner of being overwhelmed. Do these rules sound plausible or too restrictive? I guess we have the idea of having "raw sex" is what we want at least right now. Are we going about this the right way? Is starting off with a hands off approach realistic, and then moving into partial swap eventually? I love her very much and am excited that we can try this together.